In 2022, the term “quiet quitting” emerged as a hot topic on social media. According to Investopedia, “quiet quitting” has been defined as:
“Doing the minimum
requirements of one’s job
and putting in no more
time, effort, or enthusiasm
than absolutely necessary.”
We only see the term in relation to our work and jobs, but I’ve noticed this trend in my own personal life. I feel like a lot of people we know are “quiet quitting” in their own personal lives as well. It is not contained to our workplaces. It has extended into our daily, personal lives.
Auto Pilot Days
After my second baby was born, I just felt so blah. I had taken a step back from work and was still adjusting to life as a mom of two young kids. I noticed myself just moving through the motions of the day: wake up, get ready, prep breakfast, pack lunch, drop off, clean kitchen, eat lunch, errand, pick up, make dinner, shower, storytime, bedtime. ON REPEAT. Yes, daily life can be mundane and routine, but this was something more. I was just going through life by doing the bare minimum. My kids were thriving. My husband was happy. I was just surviving.
There was always this question of “what comes next?” However, I, of course like everyone else, never had the time to sit down to even think about it.
Never enough time
We are all running from one thing to another. We’re so busy. ALL. THE. TIME. and yet, we have time to Netflix and binge all the latest shows and discuss with our coworkers or friends the next day. Promising to be more productive today, we scroll on our phones, but then wonder where the time has gone.
We never take the time to sit down and really get clear on what we want in life. We brush it aside. Goal setting? I’m too busy for goals. Dreams? I’m not five years old. Purpose? I don’t know.
These are real comments I’ve heard from clients. The most common response to any question I pose is “I don’t know.” If we don’t know, then how will we ever be able to troubleshoot or problem solve. We don’t even know what the problem is. We just know – something is off, something is missing.
This is why so many of us are quiet quitting life. We are too busy, too stressed, too anxious, so lonely that it all just feels overwhelming. As a result, we choose the path of least resistance: Netflix, drink, party and avoid, avoid, avoid. Showing up and doing the bare minimum in our life feels good enough.
It doesn’t need to feel this way
One of the biggest sign that you are “quiet quitting” your life is that you don’t like the way you feel, but you’re not sure what the problem is. I think so many people tolerate and just put up with not feeling that great because they think “well, it could be worse.” You’re right. It could be worse. It can always be worse, but this doesn’t mean you need to be okay with it. You don’t need to accept feeling blah all the time. It’s okay if you want to feel better. It is not selfish to want more. You can dream bigger. You can and should take the time to figure out what it is that you want.
I’ve been there. I’ve been on autopilot just letting my life pass me by. Then, finally I decided no more. I want more for me. I want to cherish and really enjoy every bit of time that I’m blessed with. I’m going to squeeze everything out of this one precious life that I have.
You can just decide that you want more too.
If you want to see how life coaching changed my life, read about it here. When you’re ready to take the next step and want to be more intentional with your life, schedule your free consult call and let’s see how we can work together to get you loving life again.
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